Parents demand daughter sacrifice her home they bought under her name to help them financially, she refuses to sell: "You're being selfish"

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    AITA for not letting my parents sell the house that is under my name to help them out with their financial hardship?

    FOR SALE "You lied about our agreement"
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    My parents are undocumented and years ago bought a house under my name by telling me it would benefit me in the long run and would stay with me in the end when I told them I didn't want to do it since they have a history of financial problems.
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    Now with everything going on, they are wanting to sell the house to pay off an immigration lawyer and to use the money to buy a house in Mexico.
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    Today my dad said that if anything and they couldn't save up they would have to sell the house to which I told him no. He was taken a back and asked why. I told him if he didn't remember the conversation we had years ago and after a while of pushing for an answer, he said he lied bc he thought I would never get married..
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    ouch... my husband and I are not poor and we live comfortably but don't have money to spend as we want. We do have to save up for things and we do have a savings since my parents never had one and I saw them struggle bc of it.
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    The argument got so bad, he said I was selfish and I was ok in life and they weren't and all I wanted was the house to myself. That I was not thinking of them. I do pay mom 500$ a month since my son was born but she only watches him 4 times a month but most times I work from home and still pay her the same amount even when he's
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    in summer break and at home with me. (I work from home but go to the office once a week)
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    Dad said I give mom money but I don't give him at least 100$ to help with the lawyer. He does ask me for money here and there but I never ask for it back. I don't want to sell the house bc it would be a benefit to my family.
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    When I lived with my parents I would help them out tremendously to the point that I once ate out of a trash can at work bc I couldn't really spend money for myself. So AITA?
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    westernfeets • 10h ago Have you been paying the mortgage? You say the house was put in your name but who has put the money into it.
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    nikki_redGND • 13h ago Sell the house and relieve them and yourself of the debt. This will be a huge burden off your back and theirs and your credit score will get back on track. Why keep the burden?
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    You can't live in two houses at the same time. Plus they are paying the mortgage. It is only in your name.
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    Mike5473 ⚫11h ago Sell the house that is in your name and give them back the money they put into it. The money they invested in it they should keep.
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    drazil17 • 13h ago Is there any equity in the house? Did you pay for any part of the house such as down payment, taxes, upgrades, etc. If so, you need. to work out some agreement where the house is sold and you split the proceeds in a
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    way that makes sense, based on contribution.
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    Cali_Holly 13h ago ESH Selling the house would help your credit. Selling the house would allow your parents to move back to their home country and YOU wouldn't
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    have to give them money for anything. I see this as a win- win. Sale the house and move on.
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    bamalamaboo • 12h ago YTA. From your comments it's clear that your parents can no longer afford to pay the mortgage for this house, but neither can you! The idea of keeping it is pure fantasy. I get that they made promises they can't keep and now all
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    you have to show for helping. them out is bad credit (and i totally agree that s ks), but don't you care that your parents could be deported at any moment? How can you be so selfish?
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    You have a stable income and (presumably) a place to live, but imagine if you were suddenly shipped off to Mexico. You'd be jobless, homeless, and penniless there. Just like your parents will be. Sell the house and keep what you need to pay
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    off the debt and the taxes etc, but give the rest to your parents. They are the ones who actually paid for this house in the first place!
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    Tazzy110 9h ago This is confusing to me. Your parents live in the house and pay the mortgage. But, you want to keep the house for yourself? Am I in the twilight Zone?
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    OstrichIndependen... 12h ago YTA. Just let them sell the house, take whatever costs you've had to cover and let them keep the rest. What you're doing is wrong regardless of how they've wronged you. Best to let go of
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    the liability you can't manage and let everyone move forward with their lives.

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